Cultivating Strong Relationships
Human connection is at the core of good mental wellness. There are times we need to talk, cry, find ways to laugh and play or ask friends and family for encouragement.
Find a therapist, be a “therapist”
Psychotherapy, or “talk therapy,” comes in many different forms. It can be a traditional appointment with a therapist, an online site, a support group and/or a talk with a trusted role model. Feeling like you have the undivided attention, time, and support is so important.
Get Involved and Give Back
Dive into your communities and get involved. We know this is much easier said than done, meeting new people and making the effort to get out of your comfort zone is hard.
Get Grounded In Nature
Make sure you take the time each day to get up and outside. Spending time in nature and incorporating it into your daily environment can boost your mood and decrease your anxiety, along with many other health benefits.
What we put into our bodies matters. Having a healthy and balanced diet is important to provide your brain and body the nutrients we need. What we eat and when can have an impact on how we feel.
Treat Trauma & Grow Through Grief
you are not alone. Other people have experienced these changes, the losses and the aftermath of them, the ups and downs of life. While grief is so unique to each person, it can be so valuable in our lives to share it and lean on others.
Post-pandemic life will bring along a grief crisis as so many have lost loved ones, a sense of safety, and a sense of selves - but from this trauma and tragedy, we can grow.
The first step in the process is taking the time to treat trauma. Unaddressed stressors and ignoring trauma can cause long-term damage to health and well-being, especially at a young age.
These aren’t always the big and major traumas - small traumas can cause lasting damage to the body and mind if we keep them buried inside us.
Grief is not limited to the life and death of a loved one. Experiencing any sort of trauma or drastic change causes us to feel grief; grieving is a part of life.
We need to take the time to treat our traumas. Then we may grow with it, carrying our grief rather than drowning in it.
Change is constant. We have all experienced sudden changes in our lives, and we all have a lot to grieve. Whether you have:
Lost a loved one
Lost a job or are experiencing financial insecurity
Couldn’t see loved ones for long periods of time
Experienced or witnessed a traumatic event
Move, lose a safe place, or no longer live at home
Graduate and move through big life stages
Been forced into an environment of high stress or sudden change
If you are experiencing persistent moderate to severe anxiety or depression, please consult your healthcare provider for the best plan of action in your unique case. Medication or more intensive treatment may be necessary based on professional opinion.
Together we gain strength - share your grief and embrace change. It will help you not just get through your trauma but grow with it as it will always be part of you and who you will become.
Grow the legacy of love that you want for the future. Here are some ways people have honored their loved ones:
Plant a tree or make a garden
Raising awareness and/or contributing to a cause they cared for
Writing them a letter, poem, song, etc
Friends/family gatherings to honor them
Remember, each loss is unique and deserves its own attention. Grief can damage and defeat us; grief can leave us feeling lonely no matter how many people we have surrounding us. Finding a way to remain feeling connected with your loved one and make peace with the loss is crucial to the healing process.
Grief isn’t linear, nor does it follow a timeline or pattern. Be kind to yourself while grieving and take plenty of time to heal. Seek extra help, comfort, and support from family, friends, and professionals during this time in your life.
Want to learn more? Recommendations on this topic:
Treating Trauma: Books
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
No mud, no lotus: the art of transforming suffering by Thich Nhat Hanh
What Happened To You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing by Bruce Perry
Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Power, and Use it For Good by Kimberely Johnson
My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Mending of Our Body and Our Hearts by Resmaa Manakem
Writing Into the Wound: Understanding Trauma, Truth, and Language by Roxane Gay
Treating Trauma: Podcasts
Growing through Grief: Books
Healing After Loss by Martha Hickman
The Beauty of What Remains by Steve Leder
A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis
The Light Between Us by Laura Lynn Jackson
Notes on Grief by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Nurturing Healing Love by Scarlett Lewis
On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong